I had more of the Vancouver chronicles set to publish this morning, but this just cropped up so I am poking this newsie bit into my lineup. I am interested in your input, so please vote for an option in my comments:
First of all, if you have not read about the Narcey nightmare from last winter please check it out here, and here, and here. (There are tons of posts about this whack-job, but you can do a search for Narcey on my blog and find them). Or if you aren't interested in reading more, I will summarize.
I babysat for Narcey's kids. The mom was a big fan. Mid November she asked me if I preferred am or pm preschool for her triplets the next year. The VERY next week, there was a misunderstanding. My kids were cold at the kitchen table, because she was standing in my garage dealing with a 4 yr old meltdown and she left the door open. I closed the door while saying: 'Just going keep this closed.' It is a heavy door. She thought I slammed it. I told her not my intention. I don't do anything slowly in the morning. Duh.
She lost her shit in my kitchen. Shouted at me. Coach used her fit as a teaching moment. 'See kids, this is what selfish look like. All 'I' statements.' She quit my in-home daycare a week later. I babysit for teachers and could not replace them for the remainder of the school year. Narcey (her blog nickname because she is a narcissistic crazy person) faked that her husband got a promotion and cited new work hours as the reason that they left. And if that is the case, then why the text message from last night.
My favorite part of this story: Ed followed the dad to his car on their last day (gave me an hour notice for, asked that I have all 4 car seats and other stuff gathered at the door). Ed told him that his mother (ME!) took great care of his kids and that he hoped they showed a little appreciation at their next stop. BTW the other moms I sit for felt very uncomfortable when they heard this dad lose his temper with his young kiddos regularly on my driveway at pickup. The dad spun around and told Ed that they were leaving because I was violent. Me! Closing the door was violent? Seriously!
Last night Narcey texted me THIS message below:
My possible responses:
1. not text back. Narcissistic people are icky, crazy people (my sister was married to one) and they will stop at nothing to prove that everyone should believe that they are the almighty.
2. text back the first paragraph only (see below) of this lengthy venting text
that I drafted. I shared the venting text with Coach and I told Mini (who thinks I should send the whole venting text) that Daddy would just say '1st paragraph only' and when he texted me that exact thing back, she died laughing.
|THIS IS THE PROPOSED FIRST PARAGRAPH|
3. text back the entire venting text that I drafted. My issue is that I never got closure. I never got to stick up for myself outside of texting her and saying: 'Hey, that door closing this morning was not intended as a slam.' I like closure. And now she has opened the door (get it - considering this is all over a door closing!) and I feel like I have my chance to share my frustration with her.
4. text back something in between of the 1st paragraph and the entire venting text.
5. text back the first paragraph of the venting text and the words 'Sometimes the truth hurts.'
I have witnesses to her unwarranted outburst. Coach and my 3 high school kids were shocked by her reaction. The families I sit for now and those that have moved on for logistical reasons think I am the bomb.
I am friends with some of the teachers in our district and some of the young families because Mini babysits for them. I KNOW PEOPLE, and I am not shy. She seriously was off her rocker last year and it cost me a bundle, and she lied about why they were leaving. If the promotion was not a lie, then why is she uncomfortable about answering why they left?
Last year, Coach just kept shrugging and saying, 'Yeah, but you dodged a bullet. You did not want to deal with her for the rest of the year.'
See below for remainder of venting text, then please tell me what you think I should do. (this next one: part 2 is supposed to start with 'a week before thanksgiving' but it cut off)
|part 4. I LOVE THE FIRST SENTENCE|