|What's a babysitting |
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face erasing? That's me
laying on my belly,
reading to a brother sis team and
the 6 month old baby.
Bruno was CRAZY about his buddies at my house, so I feel bad that he isn't here to hang with them. I think he benefited from the socialization. His preschool bus driver once told me. "They (Bruno and his sis) just don't seem happy." I agree, something was off. I believe there was a power struggle: kids vs parents. The parents were losing.
The mom admitted that Bruno often told her to shut up, called her stupid. Neither kid would go to bed when told. She and her husband struggled.
Coach: WOW, IF THEY CAN'T HANDLE THEM NOW, WHAT'RE THEY GONNA DO WHEN THEY'RE OLDER?
|A 'light' day here at Chez Shenanigan. |
guys and a baby. This baby -
dreamy. He naps
from 9-11 and then again
from 1-3. Rarely fusses.
An 11 am preschool bus interferes with outings, etc. and I didn't charge much for a half day - it was hardly worth it. There was also a lack of gratitude. In two years, she never wrote me an end of the school year or Christmas thank you note. Not ONCE. Most families are generous and kind and shower me with gifts and the ever important thank you card, which I save. When a parent expresses how grateful they are that I've truly cared for their offspring, it means the world to me.
Ed asked me the other day if I knew where my rate was compared with other places.
Me: OH, I'M HIGH-END. FOR SURE.
Ed: WOW, REALLY.
Me: YEP. I KNOW WHAT I'M WORTH. I TAKE GREAT CARE OF THESE KIDS AND I LOAD THEM ALL UP IN GW AND TAKE THEM ON OUTINGS. MOST PLACES DON'T HAVE A CAR BIG ENOUGH TO DO THAT. I'M NOT TRYING TO RECREATE THE WHEEL. I'M JUST RECREATING WHAT I DID WITH YOU GUYS.
I'm bummed to not be making quite as much this year, but also - less busy is FINE. I'm interviewing a mom who needs care in January after maternity leave. I knew I'd never make as much as last year when this place was hopping with little people, but I do prefer to rake it in now so I can retire sooner than later.
Also, I took Fridays off this year. That has cost me a few potential jobs, but WORTH IT. I have to keep reminding myself that I'm making less, but I'm also only working 4 days.
Remember last year when two sisters, 'Kelly' and 'Nelly', hired me? I gave them a $5 discount/child/day because they were transitioning from a cheaper/licensed daycare. They seemed normal - and I'd just come off a year of ALL THE NUT JOBS. I didn't make it clear at that time, but this year the discount code expired.
I informed Kelly of this year's rate in the spring. I didn't see Nelly, because the sisters live down the street from one another and they carpool to my house.
*Kelly started teaching at the same school as Nelly this year. I could NOT work with, live near, and carpool with either of my sisters.
I admit that I should've let Nelly know, but stuff happened in May and my focus shifted. Do both sisters talk? Yep. Would Kelly tell Nelly? Yes. Still, my responsibility to communicate. I get that.
Thursday was the first day back. Nelly's husband picked up.
The Dad: I REALIZE WE NEVER SOLIDIFIED THE RATE FOR THIS YEAR.
Me: SORRY, YES, I TOLD KELLY BUT NOT NELLY. SO THIS YEAR IT'S $$ (last year + $5 a day), WHICH IS MY REGULAR RATE. LAST YEAR I GAVE YOU GUYS A DISCOUNT, BUT I'M CHARGING YOU MY STANDARD RATE THIS YEAR. $$ IS WHAT EVERYONE WITH ONE KID PAYS.
The dad: THAT'S KIND OF A BIG BUMP. ($15/week more, since they're here 3 days, vs last year's deal - $30/week less than my regular rate for 2 kids) IS THERE SOMETHING WE CAN DO WITH THAT?
*keep in mind, I have another family that isn't rolling in dough. I don't give them a discount. They pay my regular rate. That mom gave me a card at the end of the year saying I HEAR MY FRIENDS TALK ABOUT THEIR DAYCARE SITUATIONS AND I KNOW HOW LUCKY WE ARE. Nelly's family? Well, they're financially comfortable. It isn't a hardship for them to pay me. I don't base my fees on how much I think people can afford, but believe me when I say this family can afford my rate.Me: SORRY, NO. HOPEFULLY YOU CAN HAVE THE PERSPECTIVE THAT YOU GOT A GOOD DEAL LAST YEAR. I'M CHARGING YOU WHAT I CHARGE ALL MY OTHER FAMILIES.
I went to book club that night. The host lives over 30 minutes away, so I carpooled
with some other women. I told them this story and the one woman, who has grandchildren, was mind blown.
Christina: YEAH, OK MR. DAD - YOUR KIDS ARE YOUR WORLD, AND YOU WANT A DEAL? EVERYTYHING,
EVERYTHING, HAS GOTTEN TO BE MORE EXPENSIVE. PEOPLE ARE UNBELIEVABLE.
Does anyone know how long I've been babysitting for teachers in my home? Any guesses on how long I'll keep this up?