Bathroom issues that were never disclosed.
* We were never told that Harry had trouble in the bathroom. I can't even say for sure what that trouble is. He either likes to hang out in there, or is having trouble going. Maybe he knows he can avoid life while in there. Control? Physical? Psychological? Not sure. But shame on Indiana for not being upfront. Debbie eventually shared with us that Harry had this issue while he lived with her. She once casually mentioned that he'd get backed up. She thought it was his meds. I thought it was likely NO FRUIT in his diet. I didn't have ANY IDEA how big a deal it was.
Shortly after they moved in, I noticed that ANYWHERE we went, Harry would ask to use the bathroom. Checking out of Target, home in 5 minutes. He requested the bathroom. Grocery store -same. I knew he didn't have to go, so I said no. He threatened to pee on himself: I'LL DEAL WITH WHATEVER HAPPENS, BUT YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO BECAUSE WE HAVEN'T BEEN GONE V ERY LONG.YOU WENT RIGHT BEFORE WE LEFT AND WE'RE ON OUR WAY HOME.
He made a scene, grabbing his crotch. I ignored it. When we got home, he ran to play in the yard and didn't go to the bathroom for hours.
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in activity, causing the room to need
to be fumigated: against
the move-in day code.
bathroom in Tank's dorm room that he shared with suitemates. Tank, who was already anxious, lost his mind when he saw Harry heading in there. I stopped him. IF YOU'RE GOING TO POOP YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO GO TO THE LOBBY. I explained: small space/ Tank's roomie could be there any minute. If Tank's never-before-met roomie showed up, there would be no explaining the stench. No exaggeration. I'm sure we sound awful, but seriously I change a lot of smelly diapers - this was NOT normal.
* When school started, he was spending over 20 minutes in the bathroom during instruction while at school MULTIPLE TIMES A DAY. Teachers had to stand outside the bathroom and tell him to get out. He would shout at them if they tried to limit his bathroom visits.
By mid September, Coach and I said, NO MORE. The teachers gave him a clipboard. They had to sign off on frequency and duration of visits to the bathroom. If he could get through a day going two times or fewer for less than 5 minutes each, he got a movie night on Friday.
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for Curly at her travel b-ball game.