When I was just a kid myself, I babysat for a gaggle of kids. I was crazy about them and their grandma: 'Mom-Mom'. When she visited she'd slip me a $50 bill (in the early 80's that was lots a cash, heck it's a lot of cash now) while I was mass producing PB&J sandwiches, and holler, "This is for you. You take such good care of my grandchildren." She wouldn't let me politely refuse it.
When Mom-Mom met a new baby she'd say something and the words would kinda run together: OH WHAT A BEAUTIFUL BABY . . . I MEAN, YOU LOVE 'EM ANYWAY - BUT SHE'S GORGEOUS.
Something along those lines.
As a teenager, I didn't quite catch the meaning because she sort of slurred "I mean you love 'em anyway", but when she said it to me after my babies were born as she was showering me with amazing gifts and over-the-top compliments about how beautiful my babies were I GOT IT. I was like, OH, THAT'S FUNNY.
So I'm borrowing Mom-Mom's phrase here, tweaking it: MY PEOPLE ARE DRIVING ME A TAD CRAZY, I MEAN - I LOVE 'EM ANYWAY . . .
Remember my "Mini's room is a mess" rant? Well, I took the bull by the horn, or in this case I took the clothing by the hangars a few days before Christmas (yes, a while ago).
*Curly recently admitted when she folds laundry and isn't sure, she puts the item in my pile - knowing I will return it to Mini if it isn't mine. Mini, on the other hand, routinely says: OH, IT'S BEEN IN MY CLOSET FOREVER. I THOUGHT IT WAS MINE.
Oh, the things I found.
One of my sports bras, she swore she didn't have. My white capri leggings (that I may have given her under the arrangement 'I'll borrow them back on occasion'), she swore she didn't have. My closet tossing was prompted by Curly claiming she had nothing to wear to church on Christmas.
My digging expedition uncovered more than just my missing clothes. There were items that Curly could've been wearing but Mini never eliminates items or passes things over to her sister. Curly ended up with options - plural, for church.
The girls tried to blame me for the state of their closet. The last time we 'did' their closet, I moved the dresses and long items to the side that only has one rod, the side with two rods I used to organize their shirts, etc. Non floor-length items. I believe Mini's direct quote was: YOU RUINED MY LIFE WHEN YOU SWITCHED OUR STUFF AROUND IN THE CLOSET.
I was like: THEN SWITCH IT BACK, ARE YOUR ARMS BROKEN?
Is it me?
Coach took the kids skiing in February. Remind me to tell you about my one and only skiing experience and you'll understand why I didn't go. Anyway, the next day I found my leather mittens that have little finger dividers inside the mittens . . . crumpled, wrinkled, and sad looking. I was so confused.
|They looked newer before|
their skiing adventure.
Me: Did you wear my leather mittens skiing?
Mini: Oh, no. Um, they were in the car.
That made no sense. Teen talk for 'your stuff was within my reach when I forgot to bring my stuff, so I took that as an open invitation to use them'. Note that her initial reply was 'no' even though she did IN FACT use them. She didn't say 'DUH' but it was implied.
Handling the laundry:
I asked Mini to take clothes out of the dryer a few weeks ago. It was the QUICK-HANG-IT-UP-SO-IT-WON'T-WRINKLE kind of laundry.
A few days later I noticed one of MY shirts was hung up in the laundry room. That's not the alarming part. The hangar was facing the wrong way. How, you ask?
I take care of Mini's clothes and try not to dry things that might shrink, etc. When she handled my things, she used the hangar incorrectly. Like front to back vs side to side. Perhaps she thought I might grow an extra breast and would therefore need a bump in the front of my shirt.
Mini's 17. It appeared that she morphed into a careless 7 yr old.
Do you find that people/offspring/spouses do things kind of crappy so they don't get asked to help the next time?
The recipe book:
|Complicating the age old|
question: what's for dinner?
I ordered myself a recipe book for Christmas. I asked the girls if they would put my recipes in said book as a Christmas/birthday gift for me. What.was.I.thinking?
Mini has very neat handwriting. She agreed to write out the recipes.
Well, Mini sort of abandoned ship fairly early on. She failed to keep a decent system and I didn't know where she started and where she left off. For weeks when I needed a recipe, I had to dig through piles and stacks of recipes on the floor of the study.
I finally typed them all into my google docs. Now they're saved and easy to share. It didn't take long. Fortunately I'm familiar enough with my recipes that I've caught my own typos.
Maybe Mini was not the one to work on a recipe book. Have we talked about her many missteps in the kitchen? She added 4 TB of cumin to the Cuban Sheet Pan Chicken Rice Bowls vs 4 tsp once. I noticed it before it was stirred, so I was able to scoop out the excess.
I started this as a general topic, but broke it into categories by offenders. Get excited - the Tank version is yet to come.